The little things...

 

HHmm!  The smell and taste of coffee calms my heart.  I am so thankful to the Lord for the little things sometimes.  What is not so little…The $500 we were able to raise so far this holiday season through Just Love Coffee!  We are grateful for our good friends who organized an order at church and the many more who have placed online orders too.  Thank you so much.  Merry Christmas!

 

What are we waiting for?! (An updated on our Ethiopia adoption)

It has always been our desire to explain the inner workings of our adoption process.  Today I realized that the first draft of this post was started 11/28/2012!  It is amazing that almost an entire year has passed and it wasn't until today that I felt I could properly communicate some of the processes details related to what is happening on the Ethiopian side of our adoption. 

My new found confidence was inspired from our monthly conference call.  Every month our agency holds conference calls with families within the Ethiopia program.  These calls help answer questions, inform us of changes and celebrate with the families who have received referrals (my definition – referral – being introduced and presented to (a) your child).   This month, due to many concerns regarding the lack of referrals and the increase of rumors surrounding Ethiopian adoption, the AWAA Ethiopia program director spoke directly with us. 

So why is it taking so long?

Just like we had to complete paperwork on state and federal levels to prove we can adopt, a child in Ethiopia must also have paperwork completed on multiple, multiple levels (in general terms as example– county, region, state, country etc) to prove that they are eligible for adoption.  The paperwork can also be more or less complex related to specifics in their case (like if they were given up by birth parents or whether they were abandoned).

Adoption laws are also always changing.  Both the U.S. and Ethiopian governments desire for adoption to be ethical.  We admire that goal and wouldn't want it any other way!  The down side is that as the laws change it takes time to put them into practice in a time efficient manner. Adoption in Ethiopia looks very different then it did even just a couple of years ago.  More recently, over the past year, the Ethiopian government has deliberately increased their research of interviews with police officers and child relatives to make sure children are not being trafficked or adopted for ulterior motives.  This past spring, they also went into the lengthy and detailed process of renewing agency licences and as a result did not renew some agencies due to the inability of the agency to meet their standards.

The most recent change is a new process called PAIR (Pre-Adoption Immigration Review) that has been put into place between our governments this past summer, and officially started September 1^st, 2013.  Our agency's procedure is to have most, if not all, of the child information ready and accurate prior to referral.   The new law now requires that paperwork must be submitted to our embassy (U.S.) so they can write a letter to Ethiopia’s Ministry of Women, Children and Youth Affairs (MOWCYA) with a preliminary finding on whether or not the child is eligible to immigrate to the U.S.  In the past, a child's paperwork was prepared for the Ethiopian government first then presented to the U.S. Embassy after all Ethiopian proceedings were completed.  Our agency used to be able to work on the translation and error correction while they were in process instead of at the outset.  Due to language barriers, inter-country relations etc., this process has started to drastically slow down when children are eligible to be referred.  This has been reflected in the fact that there has not been an infant (under 18 months of age) referred from our agency since July. (If you want more info on PAIR click here.)

Although new laws and changes can be depressing, our program director was very upbeat.  She assured us that both governments are committed to finding forever families for these orphaned children.  She pleaded with us to pray for the government officials who are getting used to this new system.  She also assured us that there is not a lack of children to be adopted, only the lack of completed paperwork.  She empathized with us on how difficult it is to wait but encouraged us to trust the Lord’s timing and to be patient.

So, the time frame before Boaz is home most likely will continue to grow.  It is officially still at 36 months from DTE (which is still 18 months from now) but is almost assured to exceed that.  With all of this being said, we are so thankful we have an upstanding agency who desires to work and cooperate with government officials in a just and worthy manner.  We believe they are doing the absolute best to collect and sort through each child’s information and earnestly communicate with us in the process. 

In the mean time, we have much more to update on our domestic adoption.  More information to coming soon.  Happy Thanksgiving!

 

 

When we started our Just Love coffee fundraiser we had a lofty goal of raising $1,000.  The number was somewhat arbitrary due to the fact we had no idea how much coffee we could actually sell.  I checked today and realized that in the last 20 months, we have made $905.00 in total proceeds towards our adoption! 

Now that we are attempting to fund two adoptions, we would love to greatly surpass our original goal this holiday season.  Coffee is a great gift or stocking stuffer.  Fill them up with Love!

 

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TWO

This summer flew by!  After 8 weeks of living with Grandma and Grandpa K we were blessed with the opportunity to move our little own 3 acres of country.  The boys absolutely love the outdoor freedom and we are slowly settling in to calling it home.

As time continues to pass in the Ethiopia program, the wait continues to grow longer.  We have been waiting for Boaz for 18 months and the current average now is 36 months but is expected to grow longer.  We are still fully committed to our adoption in Ethiopia and bringing Boaz home no matter how long it takes.  But the reality is it will take much longer than we originally expected.  We are thankful that God is completely sovereign and we know we are exactly where He has called us to be.  He called us here even though we probably wouldn’t have chosen it in the beginning.

We have assumed from the very beginning we were going to adopt more than once.  We just didn’t know we would be pursuing two at the same time!  We are excited to announce that on Friday we met with our social worker and are starting the process of a concurrent adoption. 

What does that mean?  From now until Boaz comes home, we are compiling paperwork, to be home study ready, to pursue our second adoption.  We are seeking approval by AWAA to complete both adoptions, as well as compiling information for our family profile.  We are trying to steward the time that we have been given and at this time we feel confident that there is enough time for both to happen.  The paperwork for the second adoption is different since it is for domestic adoption within the US.  We are hoping to submit our home study information to a few different agencies within the Midwest. 

We have always said we would love to welcome a child into our home no matter how the Lord brings them to us.  We are currently taking steps to be more available for Him to work.

Please pray for us!

Please pray for wisdom in discernment about the process.  We are excited to open our home to more children, but we do not want to run ahead of God.  Has he called us to just wait? Or is this prime opportunity?  Please pray for God’s continued financial provision as we apply for grants and continue with our own savings.  Please pray that even in the midst of changes in our expectations that we would rest confident in the numerous blessings before us.

M & J

P.S. Keep following us! I hope to post soon explaining more about why it is taking so long in Ethiopia.

Time Management

Phew - it has been a while since we have updated hasn't it?!  We have had all these wonderful plans to blog weekly (or even monthly) about the specifics of adoption process but this spring has been very busy for our family at church, with friends etc. The biggest news to share is related to our living situation!   We have sold our current house and are searching for property and a home that will meet specific needs and potential desires for our growing family.

How does selling our home now specifically relate to our adoption?  We want to provide stewardship (stewardship n. - the conducting, supervising, or managing of something; especially: the careful and responsible management of something entrusted to one's care) over the waiting time before Boaz comes home.  Once Boaz gets home we want many things in our life to be as stable as we can prepare them to be.  His life up to that point will have been full of change and potentially turmoil.  It seems ideal to move before his arrival.  We also need to complete an 18-month home study update due in August.  When you move you also have to complete an update so this way we are attempting to knock them out at the same time. 

We proceeded cautiously with the idea to sell our home. We have been very blessed to have our current home. It was our first home and has welcomed two children! But with a growing brood of boys, we decided it would be very important to have an outdoor space for them to explore, learn about chores/responsibility and to just plain burn energy. We have no idea of exactly what the house or property will look like. The real estate market in our area is moving really fast. We are praying that we will have wisdom on the right house to choose and that we will be financially responsible. 

What are we doing in the meantime?  Moving in with Grandma and Grandpa K.!  Please pray for smooth transitions with our family and that we will be patient to wait on the timing of the Lord's provision for our next home.

This next year will definitely be a time of change but we look forward to the adventure!  Stay tuned.

A Kick Start for the New Year!

Here is our last family picture taken in 2012!

2013 started off a little more unusual than originally expected.  Grandma Wolfe fractured her hip while at our house and they ended up staying almost the entire month.  It was very precious to watch the concern the boys had for Grandma and to listen to the sweet prayers they lifted to their Heavenly Father.  The boys also loved having Grandpa around to play and read with.  We are thankful that Grandma is on the road to healing and now in a facility back in Michigan where she is only 2 blocks away from their home!

We also wrapped up our Hand in Hand matching grant.  To our surprise, there was a last minute anonymous donor.  By using friends, family, and Hand-in-Hand, God has amazingly provided the grand total to be $10,365!  Thank you so much to everyone who has partnered with us. 

Listed below is the total the amount we have fundraised for Boaz so far.  We are swept away by God’s provision (and I get goose bumps every time I look at it!).  We pray that you will also be blessed by these numbers.

Personal Donations                                         $2,150

Just Love Coffee                                               $713

Show Hope                                                        $4,500

WeCareforOrphans/Lifesong                        $6,900
Matching Grant

Hand-in-Hand Matching Grant                     $10,356

Total:                                                                  $24,619

Last week on Jan. 20th we also celebrated the 1^st anniversary of being accepted into AWAA’s Ethiopia program.  We are excited to share with you the journey as the next year unfolds.

$3,000 Grant Matched!

Our Hand in Hand matching grant officially closed on Friday.  Thank you all very much who supported us through this matching grant.  Although the numbers aren't finalized yet - we did indeed surpass the $3,000 needed from family and friends to received the matching $3,000!  Amazing!  We can't say it enough - we are so humbled that the Lord started us on this journey and he has been providing for us along the way!