It's a....

Girl? Boy? We don't know, but we are ecstatic to announce the potential for a new addition in our family.

The past 2 weeks have been a whirlwind.  From the phone call from our social worker that our family has been chosen by a birth mother, to meeting her, to leaving for a family vacation to Florida, and now getting home to prepare.  Due to the sensitive nature of the circumstances- we aren't giving you any details - except that the new baby may show up anytime in approximately the next 4 weeks!

It is amazing to see how the Lord has gone before us to this point.  He has worked out so many of the little details of timing and we have felt an incredible amount of peace.  But there is still a lot more to go!  Please pray.  Pray that we will reflect Him no matter the circumstances and that we will be flexible.  Please pray for health for mom and baby.  Please pray for us as new demands emotionally, spiritually and physically are put upon us.  

Yeah for crazy and exciting times!  We aren't sure who is more excited. Dad and mom, or the big brothers. 

Good News Out of Ethiopia Today!

In response to the last couple of weeks, today the Minister in charge of MOWCYA stated that neither they or the Ethiopian Government plan to shut down adoptions within Ethiopia. She encouraged our agency and others alike to continue their work as normal.


Here is actual release sent by our agency:
http://adoptedbydesign.typepad.com/blog/2014/01/positive-news-from-ethiopia.html


Change and reform is still needed and will continue to be. For we know that whenever there is opportunity to do good there is also opportunity to abuse or corrupt.  Please be in continued prayer for Ethiopia's leadership and wisdom as adoptions continue.

Urgent Ethiopian News

*Update: Due to Ethiopian Christmas(Celebrated January 7th) and a Muslim holiday, official news will most likely not be released until Thursday January 16th or later.* 


We have been here before.  Waiting.  Hoping. Unsure of the future.  Overcome with raw emotion.  The recognition that so little, truly, is in our control.  The genuine recognition we need to trust Him. 

Here is a little background:  Over the weekend of Dec. 27-29^th a multi day meeting was held by the Ethiopian House of Representatives along with MOWCYA (Ministry of Women, Children, and Youth Affairs) officials.  In the meeting, a 36+ page research paper was presented.  Amongst many issues presented, over half of the content of the paper related directly to adoption in Ethiopia.  Breakout groups made up of parliament officials, NGOs, adoption agency representatives, teachers, court officials and public attendees gathered to discuss the paper and to discuss change.   In closing, the speaker of the House stated that there are conflicts of interest leading to corruption.  It was noted the many Parliament officials strongly lobbied for the closure of international adoption.  At the end of the meeting, they determined that a strategic plan would be provided after 10 business days.

What brought this about?  There is and has been a lot of change in Ethiopia related to adoption over the last couple of years.  Some of this most recent call to action may be politically driven; re-elections are coming up later this year.  There also have been many negative articles written in main stream media related to adoption.

What does our agency say? At this time our agency, AWAA, does not anticipate complete closure of the entire country to international adoption although they recognize that it may be a reality.  They do believe that this will lead to continue adoption reform.  We are so thankful they have been open, and honest.  They are currently in the process of translating the research paper and plan to email it to all families when it is complete.  They have also held a conference call to keep us informed.  Our in country director was actually present in the meetings listed above.

What do we think?  We desire for orphan justice.  We desire a system that puts the child at priority, not money in the pockets of stakeholders or orphanage authorities.  We want a system that provides permanency for a child, in the home of a family, whether domestic or international. 

How are we handling this news?  Like the introduction mentioned we have felt like we have been in this situation before.  In a pregnancy, “spotting” brings you to this place.  Spotting many times causes a pregnant women to question – is there a problem?  Emotions can run high.  You have hopes and dreams for the child you carry but you have no control of the outcome.  Like many of you know, we lost and delivered our second son Bode during the 16^th week of our pregnancy.   During the pregnancy we had two separate times, in our hearts, we had these emotional moments that brought us to question.  The first time our fears were calmed and we were told by a doctor- "Everything looks ok!"  but the second time she silently shook her head.  That is the only thing we feel like we can compare this to.  Right now we are waiting.  We don’t know what the future holds for our “Boaz”.  If we will be told, "don't worry, everything seems to be on track" or if we will be told, "I'm sorry."  We only know that the Lord has brought us here and we are to wait.

What can you do?  Pray!

• Pray for Ethiopian government officials to be convicted of the need for children to grow up in a family.
• Pray for advocates to speak up on behalf of orphans and vulnerable children.
• Pray to end corruption, deceit, and inappropriate work in adoption.
• Pray for all the waiting families as we anxiously await the news.
• Pray for wisdom and guidance of our agency to respond wisely whatever the outcome.

 

All of this news came to us while we were enjoying our family vacation in Florida.  We struggled to keep composure and enjoy the moment where the Lord had brought us.  We desire to be used by the Lord and be flexible to his calling.  He has prepared us.  We are thankful that the Lord is also showing us the bigger picture of his love for the vulnerable and orphan children of the world.  I (J) was actually reading the book Orphan Justice by Johnny Carr when we received the news.  May we “act justly, love mercy and walk humbly with our God.” (Micah 6:8b)  We now wait until January 13th, the anticipated date for the release of more information.

 

The little things...

 

HHmm!  The smell and taste of coffee calms my heart.  I am so thankful to the Lord for the little things sometimes.  What is not so little…The $500 we were able to raise so far this holiday season through Just Love Coffee!  We are grateful for our good friends who organized an order at church and the many more who have placed online orders too.  Thank you so much.  Merry Christmas!

 

What are we waiting for?! (An updated on our Ethiopia adoption)

It has always been our desire to explain the inner workings of our adoption process.  Today I realized that the first draft of this post was started 11/28/2012!  It is amazing that almost an entire year has passed and it wasn't until today that I felt I could properly communicate some of the processes details related to what is happening on the Ethiopian side of our adoption. 

My new found confidence was inspired from our monthly conference call.  Every month our agency holds conference calls with families within the Ethiopia program.  These calls help answer questions, inform us of changes and celebrate with the families who have received referrals (my definition – referral – being introduced and presented to (a) your child).   This month, due to many concerns regarding the lack of referrals and the increase of rumors surrounding Ethiopian adoption, the AWAA Ethiopia program director spoke directly with us. 

So why is it taking so long?

Just like we had to complete paperwork on state and federal levels to prove we can adopt, a child in Ethiopia must also have paperwork completed on multiple, multiple levels (in general terms as example– county, region, state, country etc) to prove that they are eligible for adoption.  The paperwork can also be more or less complex related to specifics in their case (like if they were given up by birth parents or whether they were abandoned).

Adoption laws are also always changing.  Both the U.S. and Ethiopian governments desire for adoption to be ethical.  We admire that goal and wouldn't want it any other way!  The down side is that as the laws change it takes time to put them into practice in a time efficient manner. Adoption in Ethiopia looks very different then it did even just a couple of years ago.  More recently, over the past year, the Ethiopian government has deliberately increased their research of interviews with police officers and child relatives to make sure children are not being trafficked or adopted for ulterior motives.  This past spring, they also went into the lengthy and detailed process of renewing agency licences and as a result did not renew some agencies due to the inability of the agency to meet their standards.

The most recent change is a new process called PAIR (Pre-Adoption Immigration Review) that has been put into place between our governments this past summer, and officially started September 1^st, 2013.  Our agency's procedure is to have most, if not all, of the child information ready and accurate prior to referral.   The new law now requires that paperwork must be submitted to our embassy (U.S.) so they can write a letter to Ethiopia’s Ministry of Women, Children and Youth Affairs (MOWCYA) with a preliminary finding on whether or not the child is eligible to immigrate to the U.S.  In the past, a child's paperwork was prepared for the Ethiopian government first then presented to the U.S. Embassy after all Ethiopian proceedings were completed.  Our agency used to be able to work on the translation and error correction while they were in process instead of at the outset.  Due to language barriers, inter-country relations etc., this process has started to drastically slow down when children are eligible to be referred.  This has been reflected in the fact that there has not been an infant (under 18 months of age) referred from our agency since July. (If you want more info on PAIR click here.)

Although new laws and changes can be depressing, our program director was very upbeat.  She assured us that both governments are committed to finding forever families for these orphaned children.  She pleaded with us to pray for the government officials who are getting used to this new system.  She also assured us that there is not a lack of children to be adopted, only the lack of completed paperwork.  She empathized with us on how difficult it is to wait but encouraged us to trust the Lord’s timing and to be patient.

So, the time frame before Boaz is home most likely will continue to grow.  It is officially still at 36 months from DTE (which is still 18 months from now) but is almost assured to exceed that.  With all of this being said, we are so thankful we have an upstanding agency who desires to work and cooperate with government officials in a just and worthy manner.  We believe they are doing the absolute best to collect and sort through each child’s information and earnestly communicate with us in the process. 

In the mean time, we have much more to update on our domestic adoption.  More information to coming soon.  Happy Thanksgiving!

 

 

When we started our Just Love coffee fundraiser we had a lofty goal of raising $1,000.  The number was somewhat arbitrary due to the fact we had no idea how much coffee we could actually sell.  I checked today and realized that in the last 20 months, we have made $905.00 in total proceeds towards our adoption! 

Now that we are attempting to fund two adoptions, we would love to greatly surpass our original goal this holiday season.  Coffee is a great gift or stocking stuffer.  Fill them up with Love!

 

All the usual Just Love favorites are available, as well as their seasonal Christmas blends.  Sampler packs are also a great bargain for multiple gifts.

Please click the link below then on the shop and support button.  You can select the coffee types, countries and blends in the left task bar.
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TWO

This summer flew by!  After 8 weeks of living with Grandma and Grandpa K we were blessed with the opportunity to move our little own 3 acres of country.  The boys absolutely love the outdoor freedom and we are slowly settling in to calling it home.

As time continues to pass in the Ethiopia program, the wait continues to grow longer.  We have been waiting for Boaz for 18 months and the current average now is 36 months but is expected to grow longer.  We are still fully committed to our adoption in Ethiopia and bringing Boaz home no matter how long it takes.  But the reality is it will take much longer than we originally expected.  We are thankful that God is completely sovereign and we know we are exactly where He has called us to be.  He called us here even though we probably wouldn’t have chosen it in the beginning.

We have assumed from the very beginning we were going to adopt more than once.  We just didn’t know we would be pursuing two at the same time!  We are excited to announce that on Friday we met with our social worker and are starting the process of a concurrent adoption. 

What does that mean?  From now until Boaz comes home, we are compiling paperwork, to be home study ready, to pursue our second adoption.  We are seeking approval by AWAA to complete both adoptions, as well as compiling information for our family profile.  We are trying to steward the time that we have been given and at this time we feel confident that there is enough time for both to happen.  The paperwork for the second adoption is different since it is for domestic adoption within the US.  We are hoping to submit our home study information to a few different agencies within the Midwest. 

We have always said we would love to welcome a child into our home no matter how the Lord brings them to us.  We are currently taking steps to be more available for Him to work.

Please pray for us!

Please pray for wisdom in discernment about the process.  We are excited to open our home to more children, but we do not want to run ahead of God.  Has he called us to just wait? Or is this prime opportunity?  Please pray for God’s continued financial provision as we apply for grants and continue with our own savings.  Please pray that even in the midst of changes in our expectations that we would rest confident in the numerous blessings before us.

M & J

P.S. Keep following us! I hope to post soon explaining more about why it is taking so long in Ethiopia.